Some people want to dominate your being with their own fear, it is your duty not to allow them.
These fears are wrapped in culture, customs, assumptions, gift items and what ifs, please reject them.
Your life is your responsibility and only you can make choices that best suit you. No matter how much someone claims to know you, no one can know you more than you know yourself.
So, when next the dominants come with their weapons, do not panic. Allow them to bare their minds, it is for them to talk, just as it is for you to hear, evaluate the situation and take actions that you know are the best for you.
On the flipside, whatever you do, do not try to dominate the other person, as what goes around comes around.